How to Survive An Affair
Those who witnessed it were shocked and amazed. Those who heard about it were relieved. Even Kathy’s daughter Emma, hidden in the corner of the room, saw it and wrestled back her tears of joy.
As Ray sat alienated in the back, he felt a hand slip softly into his. Looking down, he recognized the fingers he’d known for years laced lovingly through his hand. He glanced up slowly to see Kathy’s reassuring face as she gave him a smile.
No longer was Ray cold and defensive, backed into his corner of isolation. No longer was Kathy feeling emotionally shipwrecked, paralyzed with humiliating images of Ray in the arms of the other woman.
After only a few weeks, something major was starting to change. Suddenly, talking about the details didn’t feel like taking a walk in a minefield. Kathy’s emotions were finally starting to be under her control and no longer holding her hostage.
Ray began to open up and communicate with sincerity and humility. He gently allowed her to express the trauma she experienced without arguing or throwing it back in her face (more on Ray and Kathy’s story in a second).
At this point, I realized that the consistent methods I have been using for 31 years would work for almost any couple(if at least one of them is willing to start before it is too late).
Not only have I seen it, but I’ve helped people take control by equipping them with a 3-phase system that can restore their relationship with more honesty, safety, and intimacy than before the affair (even if their spouse isn’t yet willing).
My name is Dr. Frank Gunzburg. For 15 of my 59 years, I have lived in Baltimore, Maryland with my wife Sandy, our five children, and our six grandchildren. For the most part, I’d say it’s been a quiet life, except for one thing.
Over the last 31 years, I’ve fought in the trenches alongside couples who are desperate to save their marriages after affairs. Some come to me hopeful, some come cold and battle-hardened, and others come alone, uncertain, and praying that I can breath life back into their near-dead relationship.
After three decades of specializing in marriage counseling, I’ve seen many people give up. I’ve seen many relationships where the couples put off healing too long and eventually cause irreparable damage.
More importantly, I’ve seen the majority of my couples overcome what they imagined to be unbeatable odds by restoring their relationship and making it better than before the affair.
Sound hard to believe? Perhaps, but all I ask is that you refrain from disbelieving until I show you proof.
Imagine this… what if I told you that the magic bullet for rebuilding your relationship included one or more of the following ten actions:
You might say I’m right, or you… Read more…